Party girls at Brooklyn’s This n’ That bar/ PHOTOGRAPHY BY B.HOLLYWOOD “Gay people are portrayed as wild and over-the-top,” says Miz Cracker. So why do drag queens seem to bring out the worst in us? This pushiness, this willingness to cross boundaries of personal space, is often discouraged in women, a group traditionally socialized to be demure and contained. “Straight women always want our stuff, like ‘I love that necklace, can I have it?’” “When you’re in drag, people tend to be much more physical to you, they get much closer to you,” he says. Ursinus College theater professor Domenick Scudera says it’s common for him to experience straight women behaving obnoxiously when he’s performing in drag under the name Summer Clearance. Queerness and non-binary gender expression is increasingly normalized, and the popularity of RuPaul’s Drag Race, coupled with the visibility of queens on social media, may be what’s driving droves of drag dilettantes like me into gay bars. While straight women have long been regular sights at gay bars, performers say that this sort of disruptive, obnoxious behavior is on the rise. Ragamuffin performing on Loaded Saturdays at the This n’ That bar in Brooklyn/ PHOTOGRAPHY BY B. “What show, or lecture, or reading, or anything ever in any world would it be okay to interrupt someone who is doing something to try to get on stage with them?” she asked me when we met over coffee.
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In her piece for Slate titled, “Beware the Bachelorette! A Report From the Straight Lady Invasion of Gay Bars,” Harlem-based writer and drag queen Miz Cracker describes straight women shoving their way onstage during her performances. And in watching drag, in cheering and tipping the queens, I’m enjoying a performance that might be read as making fun of women - women like me. Straight women accustomed to fending off predatory behaviors in nightspots frequented by straight men sometimes find themselves becoming the aggressors. When women visit gay bars to watch drag performed, different identities collide.
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Lowther told me he was happy to have straight women like me visit, but added, “This is my house, so behave as though you’re a guest.” I’m a straight woman and alone, so I look very out of place at This n’ That.
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It was my increasing devotion to the show - and my lack of cable - that sent me to bars to watch it. Drag icon RuPaul, 2007 / Photography by David Shankbone via Wiki Commons